At Nook and Rose we sell farmhouse home decor in a variety of styles from modern, rustic, shabby chic, industrial, traditional, and more. But we have a greater purpose behind what we do and why we do it. We believe in giving back to those in need. Those who are in the fight of their life!
A portion of each sale is donated to a victim of domestic violence.
I am the founder of Nook & Rose, I started this company for the sole purpose of helping others. I was married to an abusive man for several years. I have suffered every type of abuse under the sun. When I was trying to get away from him I saw other women fleeing from their abusers too and they were losing everything and became homeless in an effort to get away.
What I went through tore me apart and almost broke me for good. What I witnessed other women go through broke my heart. No one deserves to be abused. No one deserves to be degraded or dehumanized. It’s my goal to help those who are trying to get back on their feet, to get away from their abusers and heal.
So why sell home decor?
Because your home should be a safe place. Home should be the one place you can count on being a refugee from the chaos of the world. Home shouldn’t be where you’re afraid. Furnishing and decorating your home is the perfect way to make a space inviting, warm, peaceful, and somewhere you love being.
I wasn’t allowed to decorate our home, it wasn’t a strict rule. I could hang a few photos but that’s all I felt comfortable doing. I couldn’t buy the things I wanted because he didn’t approve and he wouldn’t buy me anything. My home wasn’t beautiful or homey, it wasn’t a place that made me feel happy. But there were many reasons for that. Our home was bare, it was cold, it was a dingy apartment that I was so embarrassed to have anyone over.
It wasn’t a place I could personalize, I couldn’t put my heart and soul into making it a beautiful space. I was judged and criticized for everything I liked. He wouldn’t let me buy things for our home, for myself, or for our child.
When I could work up the courage to go to the store by myself I’d end up wandering the aisles of stores like Hobby Lobby, and Target but it gave me anxiety to think about buying anything. I was terrified of the ridicule I’d receive from him.
After being married to my abuser for 3 years I finally found the courage to buy a few pieces of home decor. And I owe that courage to my coworkers. They restored a part of me that I didn’t even know was broken because I was so far gone and numb to the abuse. They were an enormous part in opening my eyes to the abuse and realizing that how he treated me wasn’t normal. They helped me see that I am in fact a person of worth and they could see me! They just talked to me, they cared about me, they listened to me, they took care of me. And most of them had no idea the impact they were having on my life, but I’m forever grateful for them.
So about a week to 2 weeks before I left him, and for the first time in our marriage, I bought home decor. I went to Hobby Lobby and bought a floral wreath and a wooden block with a leaf design on it. And it made me happy! It made me feel safe, it was something beautiful amidst the chaos, it was an escape from the daily screaming and abuse.
Home decor is more than just something pretty to hang on the wall. It’s freedom of expression. It’s hope. Being able to decorate means that you can create and cultivate a warm and inviting space. It’s the freedom to build a refuge from the madness of everything outside your house, and sometimes inside your house.
Home is a place to express yourself. And you should be able to express yourself.
Abuse is cruel and no one deserves it.
So I’m taking the things I love that I wasn’t allowed to do and I’m turning it into something positive. Something that will help other people who have been through the hell I personally know. By selling farmhouse home decor not only am I taking back my life and a part of my identity but I’m able to help others do the same.
When you shop at Nook and Rose you are helping someone in need. Someone who has been tortured and told it’s normal to be treated that way and to stop complaining. You are helping give someone freedom and a chance at a better life. Because when you shop through my store I donate a portion of each sale to another victim of domestic violence.
To me, my store is more than just home decor. It’s a statement. A resolution. It’s a fight for a better life for me, my child, and other victims. I will not go down quietly, I was silent for years, I will be the voice for other victims. Because I am not afraid anymore, I will fight for what is right! I will fight for other victims. If you want to read more about us or find out more ways on how you can help support our cause click here.
15 thoughts on “Our Story | Why We Sell Farmhouse Home Decor”
I love the farmhouse style! I’m not the most dedicated decorator, but I definitely love the farmhouse look.
I can relate. I was also married to an abusive man for 6 years. I wasn’t allowed to do anything. I bought McDonald’s on a credit card cause I knew he didn’t look at the statement and for me, it was indulgent. Right before my divorce I went out (with my own money) and bought a new smartphone, a tablet, a new car, an $800 painting I loved etc. It felt so stinking freeing. Now I’m married to the most amazing man in the world! Thanks for your honesty and article!
It’s so empowering to get away from abusive situations. I also know how freeing it is to get away and to be allowed to buy things for yourself. Good for you for getting away!
Wow, thank you for sharing your story. I can tell that you pour your heart into what you do — your items are beautiful.
Thank you! I sure do this cause is near and dear to my heart.
I’m glad to hear you were able to get out of your abusive relationship and turn it into something positive for other abused women. You are an inspiration indeed.
I am grateful for the road I am on now, and I couldn’t think of anything else I’d want to do besides helping others because I know the pain. I know the trauma. The world needs more good in it.
I am so touched by your story. You are doing really amazing work! I will be sure to share your site on my Facebook to spread the word 🙂
Thank you for your support!
This is so wonderful of you to share. I appreciate your story and that you’ve become a victor, not always the victim!
Absolutely! I am grateful for where I’m at and that I can help others who have been abused.
Wow! Love the heart behind what you do.
This is such a beautiful and inspiring story. Thank you for sharing and, more importantly, doing this work.
Thank you, I never thought this would be my life. But I’m grateful for the road I’m on now to be able to help others.